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I have a personal question that maybe some people here can help me with:
I enjoy venting every once in a while about my bad ol' days in the Legion and all the ridiculous stuff we had to go through. It helps me understand my experiences and maybe gain a little wisdom. It feels good to laugh about it.
On the other hand I've had the growing conviction lately that my life is in my own hands and the last thing God wants for me is to feel like a victim.
So how do you balance venting, reminiscence, and acknowledgement of evil on the one hand, and taking full control of your life and personal situation on the other?
A big step for me lately was to acknowledge that I also played a role in letting so many years go to waste. While the Legion hindered my discernment that the priesthood was not for me, I was also avoiding facing the real question and am partly responsible for that lost decade. Believe it or not, this gave me more peace, not less.
Another thing has been to keep in mind that, at least for me, it wasn't all pain and suffering, there were good experiences too.
And another question: what has helped people here speed up the transition to a productive lay life? I am on my way, but the transition to a meaningful career has been taking me months longer than I thought it would.
Those who understand his question and may have passed through this process are welcome to share their insights. Others may want to add their own experiences concerning this particular hurdle.